Eyes Opened.

Now that our adoption is done, I’ve been wrestling with something.

What next?

This may sound weird because it’s not as though we don’t have plenty to do in the present. But when we were in process to adopt I really felt like I was doing something. And when I see pictures of more kids in DRC or read Nia Vardalos’ book I start thinking, “Oh let’s adopt again!  Let’s adopt from foster care! Let’s adopt from Congo!  Let’s adopt from Haiti!”

Seriously, though, we just can’t do it right now. Baby Boy has needs that are the center of our focus and finances right now. Weirdly, that makes me feel guilty — but I read a blog post by another adoptive mama who said it so well:

The longer I am a part of the world of adoption, the more I realize adoption is just a small piece of the puzzle that meets the needs of the orphan.

So true. We set out to adopt in order to grow our family, but through it, God opened our eyes to a world we were unfamiliar with — the world of the Congo and the world of the orphan. Now that our eyes are opened, we can’t just sit back and say, “Our son is home. The end.”  It’s really just the beginning. There are millions of orphans left behind in Congo. There are millions of orphans in the world. There are some who will be adopted, but there are many who will not. What can I do about it?

I can pray. It seems small, and all things considered, it’s a pretty easy thing to do. But God says it’s an important one: Philippians 4:6-7 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which  surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ  Jesus.”

I can put my money where my mouth is. It’s not as though we are exactly rolling in the dough, but our income makes us among the richest in the world (chances are, so does yours!).  I can do little things like support adoptive families with a few dollars a week on Give1Save1, attend local fundraisers for adoptive families, and shop and purchase gifts through organizations like Sevenly. And a little goes a long way in countries like the Congo.  Did you know for $35 a month you can feed a child or sponsor his education?

I can advocate. This blog is read by about sixty  to a hundred people a day —  probably not a whole lot in the blogging world, but I can still reach sixty to a hundred people a day that I wouldn’t otherwise without a blog. I can advocate at my church for mission projects that include those left behind and I can share what we learned with friends and family whenever I have opportunity. I can advocate for those left behind at our son’s orphanage, and share with the agency what I’ve learned about nutrition and health and how to make it better — especially now that children are going to be in orphanages 3-6 months longer.

I can be a resource. It’s one of the reasons I started this blog. To share what we know about adoption, encourage it in others and provide any insight to the adoption process and life as an adoptive parent (since I’m so wise and have it all together — SNORT).

And speaking of advocating, guess who is the family of the week over on Give1Save1?  I know times are tough, but seriously– you have a dollar to spare to help this family bring their little girl home, right? She’s been waiting SO long. And if you truly don’t have a dollar, maybe you have some friends who do and all they need is you to send them the link or share it on your Facebook so that they can learn about her story.

Learn to do good; seek justice, correct oppression; bring justice to the fatherless, plead the widow’s cause. Isaiah 1:1


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