Adoptive Families: Dealing with the Questions.

A couple of weeks ago, I blogged about things that are often said to adoptive parents, ranging from innocent, well-meaning statements to ones that are downright offensive. But here's the thing -- I can beg on my blog until I'm blue in the face for people to use terms  "biological child" and "birth mom", but the questions and comments will still come, and I have to figure out how to handle my own responses appropriately. While we were in the process to bring Baby Boy home, there was so much … [Read more...]

The Adoptees’ Voices.

So if you haven't seen it, there's AMAZING conversations happening over on a post I penned last week. With the input of some close friends, I shared -- in my own sarcastic way -- comments that are made to us that can be invasive, hurtful and/or upsetting -- to our children as well as to us. I've really enjoyed seeing the response. Adoptive parents, birth mothers, adoptees, prospective adoptive parents, friends and family of adoptive parents are all weighing in. For the most part, everyone has … [Read more...]

How to Get Your Kids to Sit Still in Church: JUST KIDDING!

When I blogged about adopting toddlers last week, I shared that church is not exactly easy for us these days. While Baby Boy danced his way through a two hour gospel service when we attended church in Los Angeles this past fall, he cannot make it through even a few minutes on a typical Sunday. Worse than getting through a church service in the sanctuary with him is taking him to the nursery. Baby Boy doesn't like to be confined, for one thing. And in front of our nursery sits a table full of … [Read more...]

What You Need to Know About Adopting Toddlers.

If you follow me over on the Encompass blog, you may know about an adoption series I'm doing over there called "What You Need to Know", featuring different stories from adoptive families. So far, I've had the privilege of "interviewing" two amazing sets of parents, who have shared their stories about fostering a child and adopting an older, waiting child internationally. I've reached out to other adoptive parents who will soon be sharing their stories about their adoption experiences, and … [Read more...]

When Should My Child Start Music Lessons?

As a piano teacher, I am often asked when "the best" time to start music lessons is. While this varies from child to child, I'll be perfectly honest and say that as both a music teacher and a mother -- I'm a fan of beginning lessons at an early age. Musical experiences should start early. Birth to age six is a formative time for all kinds of development -- including musical development. For the lifelong benefits of cognition, higher test scores, enhanced ability to focus and overall … [Read more...]

New Year’s Resolutions.

Do you make New Year's Resolutions? I kind of do. Since I'm running my first half marathon this summer, one of my resolutions is to run more. This seems only logical. I'm also vowing to live more in the present -- less time on social media and the computer and more time just living fully. I've been thinking a lot about a resolution that would incorporate my kids a bit more -- and one that would help us all to grow. It finally came to me as I sat with Yaya, helping her spell words for … [Read more...]

In Defense of Santa.

The whole "Santa" thing is me. I see lots of Facebook posts during the month of December criticizing Santa, preaching against him as the one who takes away from the real meaning of Christmas. I know some families who just aren't comfortable lying to their kids about the whole business. I know some families who don't want to deal with the "let-down" that comes when the kids find out he isn't real. I've joked on the blog about how I am the "heathen-pastor's wife" … [Read more...]

Adoption Book Reports and A Few Announcements.

One of the blogs that I really enjoy is Mother, Daughter and Son Book Reviews. The website is exactly what it sounds like -- a mom and her kiddo(s) reviewing a book! It inspired me to start a book review type feature of my own -- but this one is going to have a theme. I'm calling it Adoption Book Reports and you will be able to read parent-child reviews of books that promote/discuss adoption and/or diversity. We love found that books addressing adoption and issues relevant to adoption through … [Read more...]

Train Up A Child Challenge: An Advent Calendar to Spread Joy

I'm super excited to be participating in a blog hop this month called Season of Giving: 31 Days of Spreading Joy. Our Train Up A Child project this month is an Advent calendar, of sorts. In years past, I've done the typical piece-of-chocolate-a-day Advent calendars, but I've never loved the idea of them. Plus, it's kind of annoying to be always bargaining with your preschooler about whether or not 7:30 am is too early for chocolate or remind her constantly that she can only have ONE piece of … [Read more...]

Blog Makeover and My Top 10 Favorite Blogs.

Welcome to my new/old blog. My blog has outgrown Weebly and I've been thinking for awhile that I needed to switch to a Wordpress hosted site. Since I am NOT tech-savvy AT ALL, I basically copied and pasted 128 of my 200 posts from the past year-and-a-half, and then switched the domain over to Wordpress. Unfortunately, this means I lost all of my comments and pictures from old posts -- but I'll work on gradually restoring pictures to my most popular posts! All right, with all that mundane stuff … [Read more...]