Adoptive Families: Dealing with the Questions.

A couple of weeks ago, I blogged about things that are often said to adoptive parents, ranging from innocent, well-meaning statements to ones that are downright offensive. But here's the thing -- I can beg on my blog until I'm blue in the face for people to use terms  "biological child" and "birth mom", but the questions and comments will still come, and I have to figure out how to handle my own responses appropriately. While we were in the process to bring Baby Boy home, there was so much … [Read more...]

Ten Things NOT to Say to Adoptive Parents.

A few days ago my 10 months pregnant friend at The Measured Mom posted a great list of things NOT to say to a pregnant woman, and politely suggest some alternatives.  I laughed out loud reading some of them, remembering how many of them were said to me -- and, shamefully, how many I have said to my pregnant friends, since I have forgotten what it's like to walk around with another human being inside of you! When I'm with my fellow adoptive girlfriends, you will often hear us say, "Oh, you … [Read more...]

Special Needs Adoption.

You guys HAVE to go check out the Encompass Blog today. My old high school chum, Megan, who has always had a beautiful way with words, is sharing her adoption story about her beautiful little girl who suffers from vision loss: "I don’t FEEL special or worthy or in any way qualified to be Libby’s mama. But at the same time, I KNOW beyond the shadow of a doubt that she is the daughter that God had planned for me from before eternity. He didn’t give me any special gifts over and above the gifts … [Read more...]

What You Need to Know About Adopting Toddlers.

If you follow me over on the Encompass blog, you may know about an adoption series I'm doing over there called "What You Need to Know", featuring different stories from adoptive families. So far, I've had the privilege of "interviewing" two amazing sets of parents, who have shared their stories about fostering a child and adopting an older, waiting child internationally. I've reached out to other adoptive parents who will soon be sharing their stories about their adoption experiences, and … [Read more...]

Blog Feature and a Year in Review.

I'm honored to tell you that my post about musical activities inspired by the Nutcracker was featured on Family Fun Friday -- chosen from over 200 links shared! Be sure to check out their weekly linkup, filled with fantastic posts from so a great variety of bloggers!A YEAR IN REVIEW:I see these on blogs now and then at the end of the year -- and thought it would be fun to do one here -- especially since 2013 has been a BIG year for our family!JANUARY:I packed Joel's bags for Congo, and got … [Read more...]

Adoption Book Reports and A Few Announcements.

One of the blogs that I really enjoy is Mother, Daughter and Son Book Reviews. The website is exactly what it sounds like -- a mom and her kiddo(s) reviewing a book! It inspired me to start a book review type feature of my own -- but this one is going to have a theme. I'm calling it Adoption Book Reports and you will be able to read parent-child reviews of books that promote/discuss adoption and/or diversity. We love found that books addressing adoption and issues relevant to adoption through … [Read more...]

First Post

I have gone back and forth about whether or not to blog about our adoption experience. I have been so torn that I actually started a blog a few weeks ago, wrote two posts over the course of the week, but then freaked out and removed it from this website. Blogging is uncomfortable for me. I'm not a complete introvert, and admit to having a Facebook account and even posting an occasional update or picture on it. But I am the kind of person who agonizes over every Facebook post I write, … [Read more...]