Adoptive Families: Dealing with the Questions.

A couple of weeks ago, I blogged about things that are often said to adoptive parents, ranging from innocent, well-meaning statements to ones that are downright offensive. But here's the thing -- I can beg on my blog until I'm blue in the face for people to use terms  "biological child" and "birth mom", but the questions and comments will still come, and I have to figure out how to handle my own responses appropriately. While we were in the process to bring Baby Boy home, there was so much … [Read more...]

Ten Things NOT to Say to Adoptive Parents.

A few days ago my 10 months pregnant friend at The Measured Mom posted a great list of things NOT to say to a pregnant woman, and politely suggest some alternatives.  I laughed out loud reading some of them, remembering how many of them were said to me -- and, shamefully, how many I have said to my pregnant friends, since I have forgotten what it's like to walk around with another human being inside of you! When I'm with my fellow adoptive girlfriends, you will often hear us say, "Oh, you … [Read more...]

How to Get Your Kids to Sit Still in Church: JUST KIDDING!

When I blogged about adopting toddlers last week, I shared that church is not exactly easy for us these days. While Baby Boy danced his way through a two hour gospel service when we attended church in Los Angeles this past fall, he cannot make it through even a few minutes on a typical Sunday. Worse than getting through a church service in the sanctuary with him is taking him to the nursery. Baby Boy doesn't like to be confined, for one thing. And in front of our nursery sits a table full of … [Read more...]